No More Excuses!

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I’m comfortable being a stay-at-home mom. However, our finances are not. Plus there’s a tugging at my heart to help others. Not to mention the fact that after my internship I will graduate college. But I just can’t get a job!

My excuses

1. I have to be home for the kids. Logical excuse. My six year old gets home at 2:30 and I need to be home for her. I do not like sending her to a babysitter’s house. However, I do have the option of the after school care program at the local YMCA. So that could easily be taken care of.

2. I have two teenage boys that both get home at 4:00. My oldest son is fully capable of being trusted to stay home by himself and fix himself something to eat after school. Plus he will get his homework done no problem. However, my other son is not capable of doing these things. He has behavioral problems and refuses to follow directions or rules. Not that he can’t, he just won’t. He has burned food in the microwave, almost catching the house on fire. He has broken windows. He has vandalized the neighbor’s house. He has scratched both vehicles. He has cut huge holes in the trampoline. And the list goes on. And he will most definitely not get his homework done. Needless to say, he cannot stay home by himself. He also cannot go to the YMCA after school. He was doing that for a while before he got caught doing drugs with some older kids there. So nope. Not going to happen. And what babysitter is going to babysit an almost 15-year old child? None that I have found.

3. I’m scared to go to work. Okay, this may sound a little ridiculous, but I am a tad afraid of going back to work. It’s been years since I had a job and my last job I worked from home. I only had to go into the office once a month, but every other day I was in the comfort of my own home. What if I fail? What if I cannot keep up? What if I just can’t do the job? Maybe it’s rejection that I fear most. Either way, going to a new job is scary. Bad excuse. I know.

4. How am I going to start a new job when I will have to take off work a lot to go to the doctor every 6 weeks for me, counseling for both sons, and the doctor for my daughter’s asthma and allergies? I do not want to get fired from a job I just started! How embarrassing.

So these are the top excuses that cross my mind. I know that all of these can be taken care of, yet the excuses still roll in. I don’t want to have any more excuses. I want them erased from my mind. I want to be able to just get up and have a career I love and enjoy. So no more excuses!

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My dream is to work with children with Down syndrome. When I first went back to school I had no idea what I truly wanted to do. I knew that I wanted to study psychology. I threw in some criminal justice classes thinking I wanted to go into prison ministry, or counseling. That didn’t tug at my heart. I took a special education class thinking I could work in preschools with kids with special needs. But that didn’t tug at my heart. It was not until the last semester of school that I realized that I wanted to desperately work with children with Down syndrome. This tugs at my heart. I feel this is my calling and my purpose. I feel strongly about this career choice. And yes, my dream is bigger than my excuses, and far more important.

The men in Luke 9:59-62 kept making excuses as to why they could not follow Jesus when Jesus told them to. The first man’s excuse was that he needed to go home and bury his father first. The second man’s excuse was that he needed to say goodbye to his family first. Jesus’s reply was this: “Anyone who puts a hand to the plow and then looks back is not fit for the Kingdom of God.” I want to be fit for the Kingdom of God. I want to go forward and not look back. I want to stop making excuses and live my dream.

“I can’t” statements can either come from truths or from laziness or fear. Obviously my “I can’t’s” are strictly from fear. Each one of my excuses are things that can be worked on and figured out. I just need to get that in my mind and stop making excuses.

What is your dream? What excuses are holding you back?

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5 thoughts on “No More Excuses!

  1. I can so relate. I have been home with the children for about 11 years and I am afraid to go back to work and cannot think how I will work it out, but our finances also need it. I am really confused about it as our youngest is 2 – the oldest is 16, and it is our 14 year old daughter who helps me out, but not as much anymore. I also don’t know what I want to do 😉 Glad that you figured that out. I think I now have it narrowed down to teaching English as we live in Denmark and I am English speaking, or counseling – neither of which I have studied for (I have a business degree). In the meantime I do get out and try to sell skin are and make up – totally out of my comfort zone. Thanks for sharing – it gave me a bit of a push to get this figured out, and cut my excuses. My real dream though is to have a ranch and use that to reach children and youth with special needs or who are in trouble – I have no idea how to achieve that!! And to sing (since I was 6) 😉

    1. I’m glad I could help put some thoughts in your head. 🙂 I know what you mean about being out of your comfort zone. I used to sell bags through Thirty-One Gifts and having parties was way out of my comfort zone! Standing up in front of people and speaking is just not for me. Not to mention I am not good at trying to sell things to people. I know God has a plan just for you, even if you do not know what it is yet. The ranch idea sounds so wonderful! Your business degree along with a certificate or associate’s degree in counseling would be great for that! Teaching and counseling also sound great! You will find your dream. I wish you all the best!

  2. Hi,
    I love how open and honest you are. You concerns are so right on. What if you get a part time job with mother’s hours? Like work 9-2? I worked with an awesome mom at a retail store for a while, it wasn’t what she wanted to do but it was a step into the direction of her dreams. If you got mother’s hours you could still get home in time for your 6 year old and the teens. You could also schedule ur appointments around those times if possible, too. Maybe use some of your Tuesdays to get some appointments done? As for your desire to work with down syndrome kids maybe try to seek out some volunteer opportunities to get you started. I know your plate is already full but maybe with some rearranging you could? Don’t give up on this! It will all fall into place. Give your requests to God and He will give you what you ask. 🙂 -Kp

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